Pregnancy / Maternity/08 / 10 / 2015

Are you ready for another baby?


Are You Ready for Another Baby?

  • It seems like just yesterday that you became a first-time mum.
  • In reality it was 12-months ago, but your little love is just as new today as she was exactly one year ago.
  • You’re still getting used to your new life with baby and making all of the adjustments that need to happen when two become three.
  • So, why is everyone (and I mean everyone – from your mother-in-law to the sales clerk at your favorite shop) asking when you’re going to have another?

Baby Expectations

  • Take a look around. Chances are you’re going to see more families with a few kids than those with an only child.
  • There are plenty of people out there (and some of them may even be your closest pals) that don’t get the whole one child thing.
  • If you’ve made the decision to only have an ‘only’ be prepared to explain yourself. Should you have to? No.
  • Will apparent well-wishers ask you to? Absolutely.
  • This doesn’t mean that you have to disclose every detail about your future baby (or not) plans.
  • Your decisions are private – so feel free to keep them that way.

Why Wait?

  • Let’s say you aren’t set on a single child. Does that mean you need to become a baby-making factory right away?
  • Not at all. What are some of the benefits of waiting?
  • Your body has time to recoup, and you have time to learn what it’s like to be a mum.
  • Waiting also means eliminating the threat of double diaper duty, double strollers and double night-time feedings.

What to Say

  • It’s not a surprise if your first thought is to jump in and defend your decision.
  • Whether you don’t want more kids, plan on waiting or have a medical reason for holding off, pushy people asking about a sibling for your new addition may make you want to scream.
  • Keep those not-so-nice thoughts in your head.
  • Even though your great aunt or the barista at the local coffee shop really have no rite to ask, they don’t mean you any harm.
  • Simplicity is key when dealing with baby number two questions.
  • You don’t need to tell a two-hour tale of the all-day morning sickness, followed by bed rest and an early delivery to everyone who asks.
  • A simple, “We’re just enjoying our baby” or, “Thanks for asking, but we’re just not ready right now” are both acceptable responses.
  • If the person who is doing the asking presses the issue, shut the conversation down by changing the subject.
  • Enjoy this time as a new mum. Don’t stress about what’s to come next.
  • If it seems like everyone else wants to be in the know when it comes to your next baby bump, relax and do what feels right.

In the end, it’s your decision and no one else’s business.





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